As David Whyte so elegantly puts it, “leave everything you know behind”. This training has the capacity to catapult you to a place you never imagined you could travel. The love and support I have experienced in the Shematrix Training has changed my life forever.

At my first Gift in 2003 I learned that there really was a “place for me to be” and there was no turning back. I wanted to learn how to hold space for women in the amazingly supportive way that I experienced.

It was very intense for me. The men completely had my back. The funny thing is I went into The Grail wanting to be a better husband and father, but came out of it with so much more than that.

The Gift space offered a communion with my deep self that few other things offer and that it is remarkably easy to truly transform in this kind of space. It has informed my understanding of myself and other people beyond my expectations.

There aren’t many opportunities for men to reveal their truth. To come out from the facade we hide behind each day and say, this is who I really am and not worry about being judged. The Grail is so safe an environment, that vulnerability is natural, is courageous, is welcomed.

At that first Gift I attended I sat and watched the guides and said “one day I’ll do that for women”. The inspiration for me was in the witnessing of such transformation within the women and the great power that was held in sacred space.

At The Gift I was able to let go of a dark space within me that I didn’t know was there and was able to replace that with just being me. The space was safe, with no fixing or advise giving, just beautiful support.

I didn’t want anyone to know how dead I was inside. Since The Grail, I can tell you that I have never felt more alive, more whole, more balanced in my entire life.”

The Grail is unique. You won’t find an experience like this anywhere else, particularly in the fold of a men’s event or “men’s work”. It is memorable, challenging, confronting, nourishing and lasting.

In this task filled, pressured life, The Gift is a place of safety where I can be my “true self” and see others the same way. Shematrix is an organisation that has supported me in continuing to explore the deeper parts of myself and my life.