Laurel has participated and been on team for many Gifts in Austin, Maine and Kansas City. Now part of the Austin Community she shares what it was like introducing her partner to The Gift for the first time…
“In 2016, I introduced my partner, Tobye to the Gift. She attended several circles with me and then participated in the Austin 2016 Wimberley Gift, which has been amazing. First, I know how far outside her comfort zone she was willing to go to attend her first Circle. She trusted my description of what Shematrix events meant to me. She trusted my word that she would be safe there. She continued to show courage and trust in Shematrix as she revealed more of herself at each Circle and at the Gift. She has long trusted me with her most vulnerable aspects. I was in awe of her personal courage and her trust in Shematrix to bare some of her most vulnerable aspects during the Gift Weekend. My love for her and admiration of her deepened.
After each Circle, and after the Gift, Tobye and I were able to communicate differently. We explored the parameters of staying in first person, minimizing “story”, and staying in present feeling moment as much as possible. Having experienced these parameters during circles and during the weekend has given us a valuable common framework to examine our communication.
Having her witness me baring my soul was an intimate act unlike anything else I have ever experienced. We had been together for quite a while (long story), but she had never seen me in that space and in that way. I felt fully revealed. Finally. And it felt good. I am trying unsuccessfully to come up with words. She saw me. I saw her. I believe our love is deeper and richer.”
Read here how liberating it was for Laurel’s partner, Tobye, as she shares her first Gift experience…
“I did not know about the Gift until Laurel introduced me to it. I feel I have an entire new community I can call sisters. They have seen me at my most vulnerable and have chosen to stay my friends, which makes me feel as thoughtI have sisters for life. I have a new understanding of what it means to be a woman, a wife, a friend, and an employee based on what I witnessed during my first Gift weekend.
Laurel had tremendous experience with Gift events but wanted me to experience it for myself. I was scared but tremendously liberated once I decided to participate. Experiencing this with her was for me a watershed moment in our relationship. Seeing her at her barest self and watching her bravery made me feel stronger, confident, fearless, courageous, and unafraid… which says a great deal considering my background. Seeing her embrace the Gift with gusto made me feel (and having participated also feel) as though I was safe, protected, and free from any judgment. Having my wife with me during the Gift made me feel as if our relationship was stronger—more secure—more capable—more robust—even more stable than other relationships (regardless of gender) that I know.
The women with me during my Gift were wonderful. I made great friends, and I will love some of the participants until I am no longer breathing. I will do this again in a heartbeat (with heart beating rapidly) because I was so much better for the experience. Hope to see you in Austin in 2018!!!”