FAQs

What is The Gift?

The Gift is a 3-day transformational journey for women based around a Rite of Initiation that offers the opportunity for women to rediscover and embrace their own feminine voice. It has proved over and over to be a powerful and safe space for deep and life-changing transformation to occur. Because it is such a safe environment, each woman can explore her deepest truth to clarify what she must let go of so that she can call in that which she most longs for.

What is The Grail?

The Grail is a 3-day life-changing, extraordinary journey for men. It is based around a Rite of Initiation into the feminine mystery that offers the possibility for each man to welcome and honor his wild and instinctual self. In doing so, he is able to come into a greater sense of his full potential as a man.

How do I register for an event?

Click here for a full listing of upcoming events and contact details of Organisers in your area

What actually happens on a Gift or Grail weekend?

The Gift and Grail weekends are based on an individual Rite of Initiation that each of the participants step into.  During the weekend each woman or man will have the opportunity to explore their deepest truth, and be witnessed in their essence. The incredible power of being seen in this way is life-changing.

How are Shematrix events different?

Shematrix has been offering these transformational events since 1996. We provide a safe space that is unique and like no other, a space where you will be able dive deeply into yourself and get in touch with your essence to explore all aspects of your particular incarnation. Almost all participants say they have never experienced anything like this work. There is no hierarchy, no fixing, no advice-giving of any kind. We always create a beautiful space and often people comment that they received way more than they expected from attending.

What is a Rite of Initiation?

In the work of Shematrix, we are using a contemporary, but timeless, form of initiation to activate a network of support for all those in major life transition. A Rite of Initiation is a ceremony marking an important stage in someone’s life. It is an initiation that honours transitions from one stage or cycle into another. You will be asked to courageously and with support let go of something that doesn’t serve you anymore and, embrace the new, the unknown, the Mystery. There are very few places so sacred and safe to encounter one’s deepest truth.

Who are the Guides?

The Guides are experienced facilitators in this work, and are highly trained and qualified to support the participants throughout the weekend, especially during their individual Rites of Initiation.

How are the weekends staffed?

The team consists of 2 or 3 trained Guides, an Organiser, and 4 assistants. The team all work together to hold the energy of the weekend, whilst participating in the circles throughout our time together. There is no hierarchy to the circle and the team both participates and supports the participants.

How many participants are there in an event?

The normal size of the circle is 15 participants, 2 or 3 Guides and a team of 5 assistants who come to hold a loving presence of compassion and support. This ratio of team to participants is rare at an event of this kind, and we strive to offer unwavering support to participants throughout the weekend.

What will I get out of attending an event?

People often connect more strongly with their inner guidance, and with their deep essential self. Participants often leave a Shematrix event with a new-found sense of self-love, joy, and an ease and relaxed confidence with their self-expression that manifests as a deepened trust in life. Heightened emotional intelligence, along with compassion for yourself and others is a big part of what you receive in this process. People often feel a stronger sense of clarity about their direction in life.

What types of people attend The Gift and The Grail?

So far we have had people from dozens of countries ranging in age into their late 80’s.

Are Shematrix events a confidential process? Will what I share be private?

The process is 100% confidential. Participants are contained in completely safe and confidential surroundings to share and expose their deep feelings and intimate aspects of their lives. All participants and team make an agreement of confidentiality at the beginning of the weekend.

Will I fit in?

Yes. The weekends are beneficial for every woman or man, of every age and background. The alchemy that is created amongst the group, most of whom don’t usually know each other, throughout the weekend is remarkable. This is a space of acceptance, compassion and celebration of diversity. All is welcome here!

Will I be forced to do anything I don't want to do?

We honour each woman or man’s decision to be present, and if anything does not feel right for that person, there is no coercion to take part in anything they do not feel comfortable with. We support you in asking for what you need throughout the process.

Will anyone try to "fix" me?

No. There is no fixing or therapy of any kind. We encourage everyone to be themselves and be surprised by what arises throughout the course of the weekend.

Is Shematrix Christian-based?

The work of Shematrix is not based on any religion, and does not promote any one belief system over another. We support all paths and all faiths. The Circles and Rites of Initiation held throughout the weekend blend a number of experiences drawn from many cultures and practices. We invite you to honour your own beliefs. At all times you have a choice in how you participate throughout the weekend and in our experience this work can support people wherever they are in their life.

Will I be brain-washed or feel pressure to belong to a sect, cult or new religion?

Absolutely not. We welcome people from all walks of life and different religious faiths and spiritual paths. There is no agenda to change anyone’s religious faith. We have worked with Christians, Buddhists, Jews, Muslims, Native Americans and Atheists – any and all beliefs are welcome; all have participated in the Shematrix process and/or continue to participate as a member of the Shematrix training.

Why is what happens on an event so secretive?

It’s not secretive but sacred. The magic of The Gift / The Grail is in its unfolding. As an initiatory experience it is important to maintain the elements of the unknown or of surprise, as has happened in all ancient initiatory practices. Thus we do not say much about what happens, leaving that as part of what comes to be discovered, part of what we can call the Mystery. To give you an outline of the whole program may defeat the openness you need in order to receive whatever gifts are waiting for you. To gain the maximum benefit, we ask you to trust the process.

Is there a selection criteria for admission?

No. However, when you apply your deposit for an event, we may ask you questions relating to why you are called to attend a weekend and what you expect to get out of it. This is deep work and we want to make sure it is suitable for you at this time in your life.

Is there an age restriction?

Yes, these events are mostly for adults, but beyond that there is no limit. We have had people as young as 14 and elders in their 80’s. If the person is under 20 years of age (approximately) then we have a program, which allows them to attend as what we call Maidens or Braves. They participate in all ways; however, their Rite of Initiation is held differently and the cost is only $150 plus accommodations. Everyone in the space is blessed by the gifts offered by each woman or man present, whatever their age.

I have a disability or am on medication - can I participate?

It depends on the severity of the disability or illness. During the enrollment process we will look into whether it is advisable for you to participate, or if there are some physical aspects, which may prevent you from attending.

I am transgender, can I participate?

Yes. All that is required is someone transitioning from male to female or vice versa must have had a sex change operation prior to attending a weekend. This is so that it is clear that they have fully claimed that particular gender on every level – emotionally, psychologically, and physically

What restrictions are there during the weekend?

During the process we ask participants to refrain from alcohol and any recreational drugs. We strongly advise staying on any prescription medications, but putting aside anything you take only for recreation to alter your state. These are often ways to avoid feeling deeply and refraining from them will help deepen your process.

Is there any preparatory work I have to do?

No. You just need to be clear you are ready for a deep and wonderful adventure.

Can I have translation of language?

At the moment the weekends are only led in English, so you must be able to speak and understand English well in order to participate.

Can I meditate or do my yoga exercises during the weekend?

We will ask you to devote all your time and energetic attention to the Circles and Rites of Initiation during the three days. Of course, after hours you are welcome to do your life-enhancing practices.

What kind of food is provided?

Food at the weekend events is high quality. You will get a catered main meal per day at non-residential events, and for residential events you will be provided with a catered lunch, a light dinner and breakfast. You will be asked to bring a food offering for the snack table, which is available throughout the day. Some special dietary needs can be catered for, if we are given good notice.

Where will I stay and how are the sleeping arrangements?

We offer both residential and non-residential weekends. In a residential setting the benefits are enhanced by staying on the site. Each venue varies, however each participant is provided with comfortable bedding.

What do I tell my employer or family regarding my absence?

We ask that during The Gift or Grail weekends you arrange things so that you can fully focus on yourself as if you were on a meditation retreat. Plan not to make or receive calls unless you must check in with your family. Of course, if an emergency arises on either end, you can reach your family member or they can reach you through a number, which will be provided.

Does Shematrix recommend I return to work immediately after the event?

Ideally, it is good to have a few days after the weekend for integration, but many people do return to their work and family lives immediately after the process.It is recommended that if at all possible, you take at least one day after the event to support your integration of this powerful time.

I can't afford the weekend, but desperately want to come. Do you have financial assistance? If so, who do I contact?

Shematrix has a Pay It Forward Fund, financial assistance that is offered as a way of supporting women and men to attend the weekends who would otherwise not be able to afford it. The idea is that they are partially funded by the generosity of those who contribute to the fund. As a community, we are weaving continuity, connection and healing through a generosity of spirit and abundance. Each application is individually assessed by the Pay It Forward Fund Committee and there is a form you will need to fill out to apply for this assistance. The organiser of the event you wish to attend can support you with this process.

How do you make money?

Though we are not registered as a non-profit organisation, we have some of the qualities of that kind of organisation. The majority of our organisational income comes from the tuition for our weekends and our Shematrix Mystery School Training. We run with a balanced budget to the extent possible, and donate monies to organisations such as Amnesty International, Equality Now, and Our Jinpa (supporting Tibetan refugees in Northern India). We also receive donations to continue our work in the world. Shematrix has no brick and mortar headquarters, and while Guides and Organisers and some Administrative staff are paid nominally for their time, it is not about profit for any of us. We are primarily interested in serving people by providing them access to this gateway as we have all benefited so much from it ourselves. Many people love the work so much that they volunteer their time to make sure that it continues and expands and is available to more and more women and men.

After a Gift or Grail, how can I stay involved?

There are follow up Initiates circles, Days of Rite’s, local community events, Gatherings and Trainings (see Mystery School) that will be available to you once you have completed a weekend.

What is the Mystery School?

It is a training for women in how to hold sacred space, and how to show up more clearly for ourselves and in deep service to others. Together we are called to share this transformational opportunity with ever-widening circles. The Shematrix Mystery School has been an amazing, deepening and exciting journey for many women since 1996. Being part of the Shematrix training has been an essential step in the journey for all women who are now qualified as Guides to facilitate the work in The Gift and The Grail. The Guide level training is a separate ‘invitation only’ path.